My best friend is dating the girl i love
Boy A and Boy B were friends, good friends, housemates even. It was apparent that Girl Z liked Boy B instead if A, so both boys sat down and talked about it.
Boy A relented, backed off, and gave the opportunity to Boy B, despite him liking her first.
Queer communities are often small and insular, and once you've found one, you tend to hold on to it for dear life.
It's difficult to meet people you're romantically interested in beyond an already-defined circle, and outside of your city's queer scene, most people you run into are likely to be straight.
Even if you meet someone to whom you think you have no previous connection, a 10-minute conversation almost always reveals that she went to high school with your college roommate, used to be on a volleyball team with that girl from your book club, and had a six-month stand with your favorite barista.
Queers don't tend to expect our dates to come into our lives completely free of prior complication.
I wish I could tell you otherwise, but I think you already know this. You feel this man could be the love of your life, and you’ve chosen to begin a relationship with him.
I think what you are looking for is a way to share this with your friend without losing her friendship. I think you are also hoping to alleviate some guilt you may be feeling about hurting someone you care deeply about.
On some level you must have known that she would be bothered by it, and you chose not to tell her.Well, me and this guy started sleeping together about two weeks ago and we're crazy about each other. My feeling is that she would be very hurt, but at the same time I don't want to pass up a chance to be with someone who could turn out to be the love of my life, you know?So a part of me wants to tell her in the hopes that she would be happy for me, but when I put myself in her shoes hearing this news, I think I'd be devastated. So let’s add another one to the list: chasing the same girl. “Well,” I paused, trying to construct my sentence, “If the guys decide to fight there will be someone who will lose both a friend and a girl.” “True, but…” And I see it right then and there. However, during a meal with some friends a couple of days later, Boy B apparently liked her too. Apparently, he thought my reaction is a bizarre thing to do. It’s like they have no will to fight over the girl at all,” he said. There was Boy A who met Girl Z, and he immediately liked her.